Imagine you go to dinner at In-N-Out. Their menu is comprised of relatively few options (burgers, fries, shakes) and has some possible variation but you have both choice, and limitation. Now imagine you go to dinner at The Cheesecake Factory. The menu there is a (literal) book with multiple pages. You can choose from steak, […]
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Becoming the person we want to be is tough in and of itself, but it is even more difficult and frustrating if we embark on that journey without a solid idea of who that person is, what traits they embody, the lifestyle they lead or the things that matter to them. One facet of the […]
The 5 Love Languages “quiz” and books are a frequently referenced tool in the kit for many couples, therapists and general relationship minded individuals, created by Dr. Gary Chapman. These love languages can be applied to various relationships, not just romantic, and are widely known. They work under the premise of understanding how a person […]
**I am not a physician, nutritionist or fitness guru. Please consult your doctor and qualified individuals when embarking on your own journey. Just shy of 3 years ago, I was a WHOLE different person. Mentally, physically, emotionally and more. April 2018, I saw a picture of myself that I just could not shake. This picture… […]
On social media, and all around, we often hear “setting intentions” and “act with intention”. I completely agree that we should do that, and that being intentional can assist us in reaching goals, improving relationships and interacting with the world in an improved manner; however, Ms. Ally Love, Peloton instructor and leader of “The Love […]
During a recent conversation with a friend, we were reminded of how often people (ourselves/myself included) love from a place of fear. This is something I never even realized I was doing, until I started to examine my behaviors and sit with my own insecurities, fears and truths. What do I mean when I say […]
As a guilty party in this very thought process/behavior, it certainly resonated with me while I was mentally preparing to write this post. I know it stung a little more because I could recognize those moments in my past where I misconstrued someone else’s boundaries and internalized them as rejection due to my own insecurities […]
In every instance there are choices and we can make the conscious choice to learn and grow, or to stay angry/hurt and stagnant. I recently experienced a heartbreak/grief/loss of relationship, and I am working quite hard to remember the lessons in the loss. I know it can be easy to default toward our hurt, but […]
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Romance Redefined
Recently in conversation, I realized that we often speak of “romance” or “romantic” gestures but really it’s incredibly poorly defined. I even looked it up, and “Romance”, “Romantic” and “Romantically” have all got similar vague definitions. Romantic (as found on dictionary.com) – of, relating to, or of the nature of romance; characteristic or suggestive of the […]
Countless times in life we will experience being hurt by another. Whether by friend, family, a lover, or even a stranger, we will find ourselves at the receiving end of some pain. This comes in many forms but I’m focusing on that pain which comes from intimate/romantic relationships. In the wake of heartbreak we can […]
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