The 5 Love Languages “quiz” and books are a frequently referenced tool in the kit for many couples, therapists and general relationship minded individuals, created by Dr. Gary Chapman. These love languages can be applied to various relationships, not just romantic, and are widely known. They work under the premise of understanding how a person […]
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During a recent conversation with a friend, we were reminded of how often people (ourselves/myself included) love from a place of fear. This is something I never even realized I was doing, until I started to examine my behaviors and sit with my own insecurities, fears and truths. What do I mean when I say […]
I figured I should round out and recap this month’s goal post, since I have whole “2021 goal post” that will be coming anyway. Money – – I did well and kept my holiday spending in check. I bought some gifts for the people in my life who matter most, but didn’t go overboard, as […]
In every instance there are choices and we can make the conscious choice to learn and grow, or to stay angry/hurt and stagnant. I recently experienced a heartbreak/grief/loss of relationship, and I am working quite hard to remember the lessons in the loss. I know it can be easy to default toward our hurt, but […]
Somehow I got so wrapped up in life and everything else that I seem to have forgotten to post my updates!? Whoops! That’s ok though, because a large part of the reason I have been behind is because 1. I have been crushing goals, 2. I have been exploring and thoroughly enjoying my new(ish) relationship/partner […]
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Romance Redefined
Recently in conversation, I realized that we often speak of “romance” or “romantic” gestures but really it’s incredibly poorly defined. I even looked it up, and “Romance”, “Romantic” and “Romantically” have all got similar vague definitions. Romantic (as found on dictionary.com) – of, relating to, or of the nature of romance; characteristic or suggestive of the […]
Countless times in life we will experience being hurt by another. Whether by friend, family, a lover, or even a stranger, we will find ourselves at the receiving end of some pain. This comes in many forms but I’m focusing on that pain which comes from intimate/romantic relationships. In the wake of heartbreak we can […]
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Enjoy NOW
Yesterday is ashes; tomorrow wood. Only today does the fire burn brightly. – Eskimo proverb In today’s modern world, it is not uncommon for people to live in the mindset of “later” for things, experiences or opportunities. “Once I am ready to retire, I will cash in those vacation hours at work” … “Next weekend […]
For years I wanted to be older, and now I am. – Margaret Atwood There’s some truth. I remember thinking when I was young(er) about how much I wanted to “grow up” and do all those “adult” things that seemed so fun! I can’t really say if things turned out how I expected, or anticipated, […]
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Everybody Hurts
A friend recently reminded me of something really important, that the depth of my own sadness/grief hadn’t allowed me to consider. They reminded me that my hurt and pain and grief is mine – just like the other party has their own pain that I cannot and will never precisely feel. I might feel sadness and […]
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